The Internet provides a great opportunity to find a partner, yet most men fail to actually meet someone. One reason is simply the scale of the competition. There can be anywhere from a 5 to 1 to a 20 to 1 ratio of men to women in most dating & personals sites, so the numbers are against you. By following the steps outlined below, you'll greatly improve your chances of actually finding someone.

1. Perhaps the most important step is to learn how to write a good ad. Most ads are either to blatant: "Horny well-hung stud seeks rich bitch", or too common: "Nice  guy with GSOH seeks similar female". My Ad Writing Tips page has some really great pointers to help you stand out from the competition. Also, having a photo in your ad is very helpful, and most of the services have this option. So step one is: learn to write an effective ad, and get a photo ready.

2. Next, you'll want to spread your net widely, signing up with several dating and personals services. On my Directory page you'll find several services, many completely free, and almost all offer free sign-up and allow you to receive responses to your ad for free. I have done most of your legwork, finding the sites with the largest databases, most women, and that are not fronts for porn sites.

3. Choose one of the big established services from the list below, and pay the small sign-up fee. This is not just hype. The subscription sites have a larger number of women. The cost usually amounts to less than half of what you would spend on one date. This gives you the ability to respond to ads from the best sites, and the fact that you are willing to spend a bit says something about you in itself. This is not to disparage the completely free sites; by all means use them as they can turn up the right person. It is just an additional strategy with a higher potential for success. If you are fortunate enough to afford it, sign up with more than one. Here are some of the best choices:

DatingDirect

Singles121

Dating.co.uk

UKOnlineDating

More sites are listed on the Directory Page

Dating and personals sites are becoming more and more popular, and are proving to be an effective way to find a good partner. Women have a better chance of being contacted than men, simply due to the fact that there can be anywhere from a 5 to 1 to a 20 to 1 ratio of men to women in most of these services. This means that you can focus on finding the best match for you. The steps below can help you get a great catch. 

1. Even with the odds in your favour, you can still fail to find someone if your ad doesn't stand out. Learn how to write a good ad from my Ad Writing Tips page. You'll want to attract someone with whom you will actually be compatible, and you'll also want to attract the attention of the best catches. Also, having a photo in your ad is very helpful, and most of the services have this option. So step one is: learn to write an effective ad, and get a photo ready.

2. Sign up with just a few services from the Directory page to start with. Most women find that they are soon receiving more responses than they need. If you find you aren't getting many responses you can always sign up with more later. Many of the services are completely free and almost all offer free sign-up and allow you to receive responses to your ad for free. Choose one or two from both kinds; the free sites are quite good and there are a lot of good people in them, but the other sites are slightly preferable. After all, it does say something about a man if he has spent a bit of cash to find you!

3. Choose one of the big established services from the list below, and pay the small sign-up fee. This usually amounts to the price of a good meal when you go out alone. This gives you the ability to respond to ads from the best sites, and when you find a likely catch, you'll want to respond. Most men will be really flattered by the attention, since they are used to being the first to make an overture. Studies show that most men are absolutely thrilled to be contacted first by a woman. Here are some of the best choices:

DatingDirect

Singles121

Dating.co.uk

UKOnlineDating

More sites are listed on the Directory Page